The Ladies in My Life Part II - Meet The Fex

Let me ask you a question. What do you think of this photo? I can probably guess a few of your answers; Beautiful, creative, artistic, a ten, focused..... Well, you're right! You can probably derive a lot of meanings from the same photo, ss you can see the bigger spirals that lead to the smaller spirals (Bear with me I'll get back to this). Almost all the adjectives and meanings you guys just thought of (the good ones ;) ), describe the person who took this photo.

Today, meet a very good friend of mine

Jennifer Xavier (Jenny, Jennifex, The Fex)

The reason this post has taken long to come, is partly because I've been writing it over n over in my head. Trying to make sure it comes out just perfect. I realized I may never actually do it, so I decided to just go ahead and post it!

Niren would bear witness to the fact that I wanted to be friends with Jenny the first day I saw her on one of the choir easter photos. I hadn't joined the choir then (see now why I joined the choir? ;) hehehe... kidding). This is because I was mesmerized by one of the most beautiful smiles I had ever seen. (remember those photo adjectives we started with?). Jenny has one of the most beautiful, warm and welcoming smiles you've ever seen! It just draws you to her... lol!

My friendship with Jenny has grown with time! I've come to know Jenny as loving, caring, smart, intelligent, very creative and a tough girl (No one pushes Jenny around easily). But of course, behind the tough Jenny, there's a very soft and kind heart, very expressive. She gives a lot and while she doesn't expect the same back, she expects to be treated with respect, treated like a lady and as a true friend. She treasures her friends very much! Remember the big spirals, small spirals from the photo? Jenny's willing to stretch her hand out (big spirals) to help and support those who are close to her (the close small spirals). She can do anything for her friends! She has at times gone out of her way to see how she can help her friends, even if they've not thought bout it. And she loves being listened to and always hopes that her ideas would be taken up swiftly. (Doesn't always work out, hehehe)

Jenny has always stood firm on the decisions we've made and always makes it a point to make sure we all live up to them (Difficult task she's taken, when people like me are involved). I've always enjoyed discussing ideas with her, because she'll always listen no matter how crazy they are, and humbly offer her opinion. And who would forget her famous saying "How these children are brought up?", when we (me very rarely), have decided to act completely nuts! Sometimes she bears with us though ;)!

Jenny's been a faithful member of the Loyola English Choir. She's extremely dedicated to the choir and she's always interested in what we can do to improve our singing. She was instrumental in the Christmas Concert we held last year for the aged! Her dream's to play one instrument one day, the guitar or the keyboard. Hope she will!

Is she any good with the violin? Mh...

Jenny, incidentally, holds an important record (as far as my life's concerned). She's the only friend I've fought with a lot! I've fought with my friends before, but Jenny just tops that list of number of fights, by far! I'd bet it's because we are good friends, and sometimes expect a lot from each other (like friends normally do), or don't expect our friends to let us down. With each fight I experienced what I've come to call "The Silence Treatment"; this is when Jenny decides that you need sometime off from talking to her. (You don't wanna experience it :) ). I wouldn't say I regret the fights. They've been a great opportunity for me to know this wonderful, beautiful lady! And I can surely say I enjoyed trying to convince her talk to me again, because it took the best out of me (She's worth it). From words to poetry (the poems never actually reached her because she usually started to speak to me again while the poems were halfway through). From using people, to using other people's mobile phones just to see how she's doing! What's important here is that I've learnt, over time, to be more sensitive to her feelings. But not only hers, also those of my other friends!

Finally, A short poem for you

Be it your kind heart,

Or your desire to be right,

You've always been the friend,

We enjoyed our time to spend

Be it your beautiful smile,

Or your amazing sense of style,

You've always been the light,

That which shines out bright!

Be it the silence treatment,

Or the fact that you're impatient :P,

We'll always love you,

And that is true!

Jenny's working for Amazon.com and if she hasn't received an award for best-employee or a promotion, well, it's coming. She works pretty hard, and she's extremely dedicated!

Extremely Dedicated :p

To top it all up, Jenny's a very fun loving person!!!!

And yes, I know, I know you're all wondering, she's maaaaaaadly in love!

See what I mean? ;)

Wish you all the best Jenny, in all walks of life! Amor Siempre (Spanish) Jenny! :)

Good day

Hello all! Today was relatively good day! Mum's feeling much better. She's not been treated yet, and she will require surgery. Doctor says we'll have to wait till Wednesday to see how things will proceed. He's a good doctor. So she's in good hands!

Home: Coming To Terms With Mum's Illness

I can not disclose the details of mum's illness, at least as of now. But it's been sad seeing her sick. I've been escorting her to the hospital, what a reversal of roles. This hospital I took her to, incidentally managed by Indians, she used to bring me. I found myself starting to complain how my allergies were bothering me. Then I remembered, I'm not the one who's sick. 

Will keep u posted. The usual posts will resume once we're ok!

Home

Home: "Temperature is 30 or less! Extremely breezy! Very cool in the mornings and evenings"

Well, I'm home! Currently just sitting lazily, blogging, chatting, downloading! may join my uncle at his office starting on monday! You'd be glad to know all my clothes were clean n dry, and I was one of the first to check in at the airport!

My trip back home was long, but short. Got the window seat :)!

I don't feel I spent so much time longing to reach! It wasn't long b4 i reached Doha, and the one hour of transit there was only enough for a security check and a check in to the flight to Dar! I arrived in Dar at 1.20 pm And as I reached Dar, I started to see those familiar places from the flight!

My welcome home committee was one of the best! I had my entire team of cousins (except for the youngest one)! My mum, grandparents were there also. So were the baby sitters for the entire team of cousins. Didn't have time to take photos at the airport, but this is the team! Some had just come from school!

Mum's behind me!

From left: Mark,Deborah,JB, Emmanuel,and David(in red), John's not in this pic

Grandpa, John and Deborah!

Bibi (grandma), Mark, John, Deborah and JB(he who's staring at the cam)

Aunt Helen, she who makes cakes!

David still thinks I'm a stranger, so bro's cake a no-no

Grandma Doris, my grandma's sis!


Mum, right and another grandma Norah!

The Countdown Continues: And then there was one more day!

My ticket says: "It shall take me 5.40 hours to fly from Doha to Dar es Salaam International Airport"

Vow: "Realising I cannot chase the plane up the runway, I vow to be early to the airport and not miss my flight!"

There's a lot to write!

Well, my apologies for my long silence. I've been running around Chennai, trying to make sure I finish my work! I've also been trying to meet you all before I leave! It's not been easy! What has happened at the end all the days is that I'm usually extremely tired and sleep almost immediately!

This entry shall move away from tradition a bit! I'll let u know what I've been up to in the last couple of days:

My Ariyallur trip:

Last weekend I went to visit Prakash in Ariyallur! We had a nice time! Met his friends and was given a tour around! I also saw a recently released Tamil Movie Raavanan! The movie was sexy! Praki n I went to visit the The Big (or is it large) Tanjore temple! It was surely a beautiful treat! (Part of the reason I've had a lot more running around to do, ;) ). Won't explain everything here, I'll let the photos speak!:

My College Friends bid me farewell:

Well, t was quite sweet! These guys actually set aside time and called me at one of my friends house (Extremely sexy place). We had fun, catching up with classmates, eating, watching movies, and singing along with Natalie. Thank you guys, that was great! Again, some photos!

The Conspirito bid me farewell:

Well, there wasn't really practice scheduled for that day, but i thought it'd be nice if i meet the group one more time! Well, it was quite a nice meeting... lots of mixed emotions! Lots of talk about how the group came about, what it's been through, the current face-lift, my possible return to India, etc! They gave me a nice gift too! See a photo of me tryin it out! We finally ended with a Swahili song i partly taught them. Oh,yeah, that was after Francis' Mother prayed for me! Felt really special!

The Choir Bids me farewell!

Well, twas after college hours on Monday that I met these guys... Led by Jenny (patience, your post is coming). We met at NRC! Unfortunately, because i didn't carry my camera with me, I won't have any pics of them here. However, i did have a nice time spending my last few hours in India, with a group i've spent most of my time with. Plus, what can beat Jenny's smile sitting right opposite to me... lol! My apologies to all though, i was quite tensed! May not have been the best company!

The Countdown Continues: Unfortunate Events

My apologies faithful followers of my blog! A series of unfortunate events has made it extremely difficult to post on the blog... Believe me... I've been upset! I feel the world is conspiring against me!

A friend of mine, Shrayas, wrote something about me, he calls it "Terribute", you may want to read it Read Terribute.

I shall post soon!

Wishing you a lovely day :)

The Countdown Continues: The ladies in my life - Part I

My ticket says: "I'll be in transit at Doha for 1.15 hours"

Vow: "I vow to have all my clothes cleaned well before the night of the trip"

Until 10 minutes ago, I was going to Ariyallur (Somewhere near Thanjavur, Alfred Sundarraj's Place), however, my host suggested I leave a little later, so I'll leave tomorrow morning. That gave me a chance however, to write another post!

I know, I know, I've broken one of the cardinal rules, i.e. Ladies First! And the ladies in my life have actually talked to me, demanding an explanation (typical ain't it). But for them, I'd like to quote the following "Save the best for last!". So patience ladies, just a little patience! ;)

Today, meet Jinu (more famously known as Jinju):



Well, this beautiful lady is one of the closest lady friends I've had here in India! Perhaps I like her because, well, she sleeps a lot, and talks a lot too! Which makes her kind of interesting, coz sleeping is like one of the things I enjoy doing and well, I don't talk much, so some one has to! Jinu just fits perfectly! lol!

Here's part of a chat I had with Jinu recently:

"hey its life embrace it. Trust me, actually no, trust in the Lord n He will guide ur path. Lean nt on ur own understanding... in all of ur ways acknowledge Jesus and He will make ur path straight"

Well, that there is one of the reasons Jinu's one of my favorite girls! When she's not sleeping, Jinu's one of my favorite advisers! She has a way of making me feel great, whenever I'm down or guilty! She has made me accept the fact that no one is perfect (Yes, especially not me, lol!). Jinu's extremely supportive too! We always, in our occasional chat sessions, try to figure out stuff about life, studies, relationships, etc.

Along with that, Jinu's a girl with a very strong faith! Her faith and trust in the Lord (Jesus Christ) is something I admire always! She's one of those people I look at and say, I wish I had faith like her! I envy her! I admire the way she prays and always involves God in her life and decisions! Jinu's also an amazingly great singer! She has a very strong voice! Jinu also shows her faith during singing, you see that she's actually singing from the bottom of her heart! I Always wanted to do a duet with her (never got a chance :( ), perhaps someday in the future!

Jinu Singing :)

Even before I met Jinu, I always admired her! Her fast-paced, confidence filled walk, And I was like, who's that girl??? lol! I finally met Jinu as I joined Loyola Choir (Thus the reference to the singing)! She's fun, sweet! It's funny how she starts talking like a kid when she speaks to her parents (ok, a little confession here, even I do, but only when I'm alone with my mum, ;) )

She's also a great social worker. And she's told me once that Her aim's to do all that's in her ability to help the poor, the oppressed n needy! She's got the intellect, she's got the courage! She can, I'm sure bring the changes n do the work she aspires to do!

Jinu just finished writing her IAS exams (did I Get that right?). She awaits her results, and she's currently working! Jinu has also recently found love, and she's extremely happy! Gotta admit, she's dating a great guy ;)! I wish her all the best in all her endeavors and life as she goes through life and aims to serve the society!


Jinu, I hope I did u justice ;)!

p.s. Jinu is the one who suggested I post pictures of my friends too as I write about them! So, here u go! Don't worry, everyone's picture will be put up soon!

AN EXPERIENCE TO SHARE: Sometimes we just have to be selfish, sometimes we just have to break hearts!

Now, I'm not a heart breaker, nor am I selfish! I have however, been in situations, this year especially, when I've had to become a little selfish and I've had to break hearts! There have been situations when I was just too tired (Final year was challenging), to help anyone. There have been times, when I've had to back down from trips we (My friends and I) took a lot of time planning! Perhaps I needed time to rest, or I needed time to work, perhaps I needed time to myself! Apart from that, having two groups of friends meant sometimes, my choices were never easy! I'm sure most of you have experienced this! Sometimes, no matter how we try, somethings are just planned on the same date by both groups of friends! So yes, sometimes we do have to be selfish, and sometimes we do have to break hearts! It's sad, but true! We just hope that our friends find it in their hearts to forgive us!